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Engage the Senses

If your loved one loves being outside or gardening, gather a few things that remind them of those moments—a little pot of lavender, a smooth rock, or some soft moss. Let them feel and smell each one. It's a simple way to bring a bit of nature to them, and it can be really calming.

A Touch of Gardening

For someone who loved their plants or a backyard garden, a raised planter box can give your loved one greater access. You can give them a small task like watering a plant (indoor or outdoor) or sprinkling some seeds in soil, or weeding (consider starting with mature plants.) If that’s too much, let them feel the texture of the soil or smell a fresh herb. It’s a great way to reconnect with a hobby they cherished.

Warm Laundry Sorting and Folding

If your loved one enjoys simple, familiar tasks of homemaking, fresh laundry can be a perfect activity. Take a warm load straight from the dryer, and let them feel the soothing heat, smell the clean, fresh scent (try using a nice strong scented fabric softener.) 

Have him/her help you fold simple items like towels or socks. The warmth and scent of laundry are calming and nostalgic, often evoking comforting memories of home and routine.

If folding is too challenging, he/she can help match socks or simply enjoy holding the warm laundry while you fold together. This can turn a routine task into a shared, meaningful moment.

Kitchen Comforts

If they enjoyed cooking or baking, let them help with small tasks like stirring batter, kneading dough, or arranging cookies on a tray. You could also just share the experience of smelling spices or fresh bread. It’s a way to bring back those cozy kitchen memories.

Sorting and Puzzles

For someone who liked keeping things organized, you can try sorting games. Buttons, coins, or even colored cards work well. Consider having him/her sort into an egg carton by shape, size, or color
It’s low pressure but gives them a sense of purpose and keeps their mind engaged.

Getting Creative

If they used to enjoyed knitting, sewing, or crafts, try giving them something simple to work with, like a piece of yarn, some coloring pages, or paints. You can purchase or make large "sewing" cards

Don’t worry about the outcome—it’s about the act of creating. Stick to their favorite colors or something familiar. It’s not only relaxing but can be a great way to express themselves.

MEMORIES

Music and Memories

Think about the music they loved—maybe something from their younger years like Elvis, Sinatra, or a favorite hymn. Play those songs and sing along with them or just sit and enjoy the moment together. Music has a way of bringing back memories and lifting spirits, even if they don’t say much.

Looking Back on Life

Pull out an old photo album or scrapbook. Flip through it together, point out familiar faces, and share stories. Even if they can’t recall all the details, these moments can bring a smile or spark recognition. It’s about enjoying the time together, not testing their memory.

Stirring Up Memories

(If appropriate) Bring out something tied to a favorite memory—a fishing lure if they used to fish, an apron if they baked, or a hat from their favorite sports team. Ask gentle questions like, “Did you catch anything big that day?” These little triggers can open the door to storytelling or just happy feelings.

STIR THE SENSES

Moving Gently

If they enjoyed dancing or walks in the past, try putting on some slow music and holding their hands to sway together, or go for a short walk if it’s safe to do so. Even simple stretches while seated can help them feel more at ease and connected to their body.

A Gentle Touch

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Massage the hands and feet with a favorite scented lotion (Japanese Cherry Blossom is a great choice) or a slow hair brushing session can be incredibly soothing. It’s not just about the physical care but also the emotional comfort it provides. These quiet, intimate moments can mean so much.

Reading Aloud

If they loved books or poetry, read to them from something familiar—a classic novel, a beloved poem, or even a short story. It doesn’t matter if they fully follow along or not; the sound of your voice and the rhythm of the words can be calming.

Caring for a loved one with dementia is a journey that requires patience, creativity, and above all, love. While the challenges can be significant, the moments of connection and joy you create together are incredibly meaningful. Whether it’s through the soothing touch of a hand massage, the spark of a favorite song, or the quiet comfort of looking through old photos, these small acts can bring light to their day—and yours.

Remember, it’s not about the activity itself but the bond it fosters. Every smile, shared laugh, or moment of calm is a victory. As you explore these ideas, trust your instincts, celebrate the small wins, and cherish the time you have together. You’re making a difference in ways that words can’t fully capture, simply by being present and showing love.

A Final Thought

At the end of the day, it’s not about what they do perfectly—it’s about making them feel loved, safe, and connected. Even small moments of joy, like a smile or a shared laugh, can make all the difference.

If you’d like more specific ideas tailored to their interests, feel free to share a bit about them!